When you move, people want to see the new house. If you have them over in the first couple of weeks, maybe in the first month or so, then they expect total chaos. They assume that there will still be boxes everywhere, that everything will be in disorder, that the beds won’t be made, that you’ll order takeout for dinner (or they’ll even bring it, in many cases)…and why would they expect anything else? You just moved!
This is a great time to have people over.
In another month, they will have forgotten that you moved recently and expect the dishes to be clean, the laundry to be folded, art to be hung on the walls. If you tend to live normally in a high degree of chaos, as I do (I have a toddler and poor eye for interior design – it adds up to a desire to live in a grownup house, but a despair that I will ever outgrow the feeling that this is only a wee bit above my grad student standards), those first few weeks are a golden window of opportunity to entertain, judgement free.
There’s an analogy to be made with a lot of nonprofit scenarios, and for you, individually, when going through job transitions. Read more