Embrace your window of low expectations (things I learned from moving part 3)

When you move, people want to see the new house.  If you have them over in the first couple of weeks, maybe in the first month or so, then they expect total chaos.  They assume that there will still be boxes everywhere, that everything will be in disorder, that the beds won’t be made, that you’ll order takeout for dinner (or they’ll even bring it, in many cases)…and why would they expect anything else?  You just moved!

This is a great time to have people over.

In another month, they will have forgotten that you moved recently and expect the dishes to be clean, the laundry to be folded, art to be hung on the walls.  If you tend to live normally in a high degree of chaos, as I do (I have a toddler and poor eye for interior design – it adds up to a desire to live in a grownup house, but a despair that I will ever outgrow the feeling that this is only a wee bit above my grad student standards), those first few weeks are a golden window of opportunity to entertain, judgement free.

There’s an analogy to be made with a lot of nonprofit scenarios, and for you, individually, when going through job transitions. Read more

Reality TV – This Seems Like A Bad Idea

I’ve always said that a fundraising office would be a great place for a hour-long dramedy.  When I think of all the stories I can tell, I’m sometimes

But reality tv and fundraising seems like a terrible combination.  Like Grapefruit Juice and Creme de Menthe.  Even if you talk yourself into thinking it’s innocuous, you know you’re going to wind up regretting it, when your teeth are vibrating from the experience.  (I’ve tried that cocktail by the way.  It was one of my worst college mistakes.)

For those of you who aren’t scared off by sketchy, sketchy situations, though, here’s the opportunity for you! Read more

Quick Tips: Learn How to Give from the Buffetts

Talk about a sincere and thoughtful philanthropist: Warren Buffett.  Oh, wait…we’re not talking about him, even though he’s a bit more famous than his older sister, Doris.

Doris Buffett and her grandson, Alex Rozek have been interested in making more people into philanthropists – people who are not just charitable with their money, but think strategically about how to support the causes and organizations they care about the most. Read more